13Apr/15
Life is a Restaurant

Life is a Restaurant

Life is a Restaurant

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Life is like a restaurant, you have to choose what you’re going to get.

Have you ever been to a restaurant where nothing on the menu appealed to you? Or perhaps you experienced the opposite — you had so many options that you were overwhelmed and couldn’t decide what to eat.

Life can be a lot like that. Have you ever looked around at your circumstances and nothing appealed to you? Or perhaps you saw what everyone else had and wondered why your life couldn’t be more appetizing. The difference between a restaurant menu and your life is that you get to decide what gets prepared because you’re the chef. Sometimes life puts us into situations where we feel we don’t have any choices but to stay depressed and stuck. But the truth is, we can create choice.

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30Mar/15
Ode to a cribe

Letting Go of Sentimental Furniture

An Ode to a Crib

Our crib, vacant and ready to move on

Our crib, vacant and ready to move on

This past weekend I dis-assembled our crib. The crib that we picked out at the beautiful baby furniture store when we were expecting our daughter. The crib that we used for our son for almost two years after that. And now, our first-born is in school and our youngest is so definitely not a baby, with his parrot-like repetition of everything we say and his mouth-full-of-teeth grin. And so, the crib had been sitting vacant for over a month, like the baby clothes and infant-seats that went before it, no longer needed for it’s intended purpose. Without need of it, and with it taking up so much valuable-real estate in our home, you would think that I, a purge-happy minimalist, would have been thrilled to part with it.

The thing is, I wasn’t.

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18Mar/15
How to get the life you want

How to get the life you want

How to get the life you want

Why do you do the things you do?

Think about it, every decision you’ve made until now was governed by a force in your life, whether you realized it or not. From seemingly insignificant decisions like what you would eat for breakfast or wear to work, to life-altering decisions about who you would marry, or where you would live, every choice can be brought back to the same source.

Yes, who we are dictates what we decide, but what we decide also dictates who we are. It is a continuous, evolving cycle and whether you are aware of it or not, it is at work in your life right now. I call it the “principle-practice” model.

Your principles dictate your practices, and likewise, your practices dictate your principles.

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13Mar/15
Go Ahead, Get Dirty!

Go Ahead, Get Dirty!

Go Ahead, Get Dirty!Spring is on its way where we live and with the warmer sunshine-filled days comes the melting of snow. And we have a LOT of snow. What happens when giant banks of snow dissolve into water? Puddles. Around our neighbourhood they tend to resemble miniature lakes, where you’re liable to get wet up to your knees. Is there anything more satisfying to a child than coming across a giant puddle, and running through it with reckless abandon?
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02Mar/15
Leaving The Hero Complex Behind

Leaving the Hero Complex Behind

Leaving The Hero Complex Behind

Superman’s suit worn by Christopher Reeve. Photo taken at the EMP Museum in Seattle.

I remember being 6 years old running on my home’s wrap-around porch and suddenly opening my Spring jacket pretending to be Superman. Then I would run back inside and ask my mom to snap my jacket back up so I coould do it all over again. You see, most of the time I felt more like Clark Kent than Superman. Growing with a disability, I felt fragile and was very dependent on others but imagining I was Mr. Kent gave me hope of becoming a hero.

As I got older, I got stronger and more confident. I developed a strong sense of responsibility, a love for helping people and fixing problems. You might say that those are noble traits, and for the most part you’d be right. These character traits helped me stay out of trouble, gave me purpose and shaped me into a dependable person. But I also developed a hero complex.

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23Feb/15
How to Cope When Life Feels Stuck

How to Cope When Life Feels Stuck

How to Cope When Life Feels Stuck

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I really enjoy reading. I don’t have as much time to do it as I’d like, and I will sometimes opt for the mental ease of watching television before I pick up a book, but I do enjoy reading. I hesitate to call myself a “reader” in the same way that someone who jogs recreationally hesitates to call themselves a “runner”. To them I always say, if you’re running voluntarily, then you’re a runner. The same sentiment could apply to reading as well, I suppose.

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05Feb/15

How Not to Become a Hoarder

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Image courtesy of Serge Bertasius Photography/ Freedigitalphotos.net

The other morning as I was getting clothes for my daughter to wear to school, I opened her sock drawer and reached for her last pair of clean socks. Internally I told myself “We’ll have to get her more socks.” Immediately my mind started to debate itself: “Do you really need more socks or do you just have to do laundry?”

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27Jan/15
Power Of The Ring

Power Of The Ring

Power Of The Ring

By Todd Ginther.

I was looking at my wedding band the other day and realized that I have become so accustomed to wearing it that I rarely look at it or even notice it anymore, it feels like it’s a part of me. On one hand, it shows that I’ve been married for awhile and that through the joy and hardships of life, Cheryl and I are a part of each other. On the other hand, I think I’m not taking full advantage of the power of the ring!

I have a simple technique that will help you to use your wedding ring in a new way; it will help you to see the best in your spouse.

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23Jan/15
The Day I Lied

The Day I Lied

The Day I Lied

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This is the story of the time I lied to our four year old. No, not about the existence of Santa Claus or the Easter Bunny. I didn’t lie to her about how eating green vegetables will give her magic hair like Rapunzel or that if she isn’t asleep in five minutes the fairies won’t be able to come and sprinkle her with fairy dust (that is what I call regular dust in my house; our home is incredibly magical). I lied to her about dog clothes.

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