Tag Archives: Mental shift

06Jan/15
Learning to Let Go

Learning to Let Go

Learning to Let Go

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Giving advice is often easier than receiving one and applying it! Let it go is a popular saying these days. But what does it mean? For some, it means letting the grieving process run its course. For others, it means letting go of an argument between friends or colleagues; or letting go of a harsh comment someone gave you. It also means letting go of being a perfectionist. I need to work on all of these and I hope that by writing this post, I’ll be able to take my own advice.

You should carefully reread the first paragraph because there are at least ten mistakes in it. If you consider yourself to be a great reader and writer, you should have found some by now. For those of you who are perfectionists, let me stop you right here, I did not intentionally insert ten mistakes. For the rest of you, imagine searching for these mistakes, never finding them but always wondering where they might be or if you found all of them. That is a silly example of how it feels not to let go.

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29Dec/14
Best Advice Ever

Best Advice Ever

Best Advice Ever

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Stop rationalizing! This is the best advice ever that I can come up with for now. 😉 Rationalization can be good and is actually essential when planning or looking for constructive solutions. Unfortunately, I tend to use rationalization in a different way: it helps me to make excuses! I think we all do.

Suppose you took a small piece of chocolate just because you wanted a snack. You’re still hungry, another little piece won’t hurt. And then another, who can blame you, you deserve it! See how easily it’s done and our minds are amazing at doing it! Some of you might be drooling by now (I apologize), others might not have difficulties resisting food. But we can all think of at least one thing we try to get or do by using rationalization when we know already it is non-constructive or even worse still, destructive.

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15Dec/14
Sneaking Around Helping People

Sneaking Around Helping People

Sneaking Around Helping People

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As a Canadian living in a cold and snowy city, one of my slogans is “I can’t always run but I can shovel!” Actually I don’t mind shovelling snow. I put some Christmas music on and go out enjoy the fresh air and the workout.

Not too long ago was the first big storm of the season here in Ottawa. At this time of year, shovelling is not just a sport, it’s an intense planning activity! See, I have a small lawn and long driveway which means I need to carefully place the snow in a way that will allow me to stack the snow all winter long without it crumbling down and burying me. 😉

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01Dec/14
Mother...!

Mother…!

Mother...!

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People don’t always use the word mother in a pleasant fashion. Here’s what everyone should say: Mothers are fantastic! This is the conclusion I drew after sitting a long time in the waiting room of my doctor’s office. Of course, I knew this universal truth before going to my appointment but as many other truths this one tends to be forgotten. And for some reason – probably pertaining to our human nature – mothers are the most forgetful of this, closely followed by their husbands.

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20Nov/14

Purposefully Unproductive

Purposefully Unproductive

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I’m a mom of two young kids (in case my “ponytail as a hairstyle” didn’t give it away yet) so “I’m bored” are two words I haven’t said in a long time. Whether it’s tidying up the toys, folding laundry, or a myriad of other jobs, there is always something that needs to get done.

Can you relate? I’m sure you can. No matter your season of life there is always something that needs cleaning, work that needs to be accomplished, and plans to prepare for.

Lately though I’ve been practicing being unproductive. It is taking active un-learning to stop thinking about the next thing that needs to get done long enough to be still and enjoy the moment. Sometimes I do it for 30 seconds while I am drinking my first morning sip of freshly brewed coffee. Other times I try and sit quietly for 5 minutes, this is about as long I can tolerate until the urge to get up and do something kicks in.

There is a fear of falling behind that permeates our decisions. Our work continues to mount as we don’t complete it. We also feel that we are the most capable and that if we didn’t act, nothing would get done. There is an old saying that goes: “the graveyards are full of indispensable people”. It is a telling, albeit somewhat morbid, statement that life goes on, with or without us.

So what value is there in stopping, then, if it risks us falling behind? Here are three observations from my own experience with being purposefully unproductive.

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01Oct/14
Minimalist: Greedy for Less

Minimalist: Greedy for Less

Can a minimalist be greedy? Can a minimalist act greedy? Watch this video and find out as Cheryl and I discuss greed, one of its possible source, its effects and how we try to avoid it in our life.

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22Sep/14
Stuff can't fix everything

When Stuff Can’t Help You

Stuff can't fix everything

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Ever notice how when you have a need in your life, there is always someone trying to sell you something to fill it? Looking tired? Buy some makeup. Out of shape? Buy a gym membership. Bad hair day? Buy a hat. Well, maybe that last one is just for me but you get the idea. It seems such a pervasive idea that sometimes it even goes undetected, until we have left the Target with yet again $100 of “stuff” when we only went in for some milk — try not to buy milk the same place you can buy underwear, that will prevent this from happening again.

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12Sep/14
The Simplicity Guide to Your Relationships

The Simplicity Guide to Your Relationships

This is a simple guide that you can use to evaluate each of your relationships. This guide is not meant to be exhaustive or the ultimate authority but to give you a practical workflow to simplify your life by helping you focus on the most important people or group of people. [tweet this]

This guide might sound harsh but it’s meant to make sure you don’t get stuck and to propel you forward. At each stage of our life, we need to be taught, we need to teach and we also need people who support who we are, our values and our goals. I hope this helps you prioritize your relationships.

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29Jul/14
Running Stride

Finding Your Stride

Running Stride

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I was out for a run the other day and I just couldn’t seem to find my stride. I was visiting family so my route was on new terrain, I was wearing borrowed earbuds that refused to stay put and to top it all off, it was raining. I’ve been running long enough that running in the rain isn’t a huge deterrent, but it certainly doesn’t make for as pleasurable of a run. About halfway through the run I gave up on the earbuds and stuffed them into my pocket, deciding instead to let my heavy breathing and the splashing of the rain be my music (doesn’t quite have the oomph of my dance mix but it is more peaceful). I was trying to stay positive but was fighting thoughts like “I should have stayed in” and “this is going to be a poor run”. I was rounding the corner to turn back to my parents house when I saw another woman running towards me, just as soaked as I was at that point. She was on the opposite side of the road but as we approached each other I checked for cars and crossed towards her. I gave her a high five and said “way to go! Keep running!” and she smiled, high-fived back and said “you too!”. I finished my run with a smile on my face and it left a great impression on my soul as well.

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11Jul/14
Bird signing

How to Create a Positive Perspective

Bird signing

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This morning as I was out walking my dog at 6am I heard a bird giving its morning wake-up call in a tree in front of my neighbours open window. At first I thought about how annoyed I would be if I were that person trying to sleep and being awoken by a noisy bird (for I have been that person!). My next thought though was the complete opposite: “What,” I imagined, “if that person specifically left their window open so that they could be woken up to the sound of birds singing?”. Even though it is not my ideal way to be awoken from slumber (the smell of coffee brewing would do it for me, if anyone is taking notes) it does not mean that someone else does not enjoy what I might consider to be bothersome. What if we changed our thinking to view the ‘noisy birds’ in our lives as beautiful music to our ears?

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