Tag Archives: Parenting

19Sep/15
What are the many pleasures of having kids?

What are the many pleasures of having kids?

What are the many pleasures of having kids?

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I have been asking myself one question lately. What are the many pleasures of having kids?

Foolish people tend to focus on the negative even when everything is going well. Others are mostly positive… well, at least when things are going well! But unfortunately most of us tend to focus on the difficulties, the sadness, the wrongs that have been done to us.

When you expect your first child, you get excited, you almost cannot wait for that precious day when you’ll hold that new life in your arms. You know the difficulties that will come with this new born and despite of this you focus on the positive and get extreme joy out of these thoughts.

Couple kids later, you’re in your kitchen trying to accomplish many small tasks that seemed so easily and quickly done in the past. Your kids are crying and they’re not the only ones. You feel overwhelmed and alone. You think of all that you have to do, everything seems so big. Stop right there, shake your body, move around and then continue reading.

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13Jun/15
Serenity Now!

Serenity Now!

Serenity Now!

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We have two children under the age five so serene isn’t a word that would describe our home very often.

Kids are loud and living with them can be chaotic.

Tantrums.

Tears.

Tempers.

They all abound.

But over the last couple of years I have found one thing that very rarely fails to deliver.

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23Apr/15
parenting like a poker player

Parent like a poker player

Parent like a poker player

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Mornings with kids are tough. Especially when one of your kids isn’t a morning person and she has to be on the bus to school for 7:40am. Last week was particularly difficult. Every morning since Monday, the very first words out of our daughter’t mouth were: “Is it the fin-de-semaine [weekend] yet?” With which I had to reply with a sympathetic, “No, sweetie. It’s Monday” and again with each day of the week thereafter.

Thursday night, out of the earshot of the kids, JF and I said that we would keep her home Friday so that she could get some rest and then we could all sleep in (7am, lets be realistic here). So, we settle in Thursday night hoping for a long, restful sleep.

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30Mar/15
Ode to a cribe

Letting Go of Sentimental Furniture

An Ode to a Crib

Our crib, vacant and ready to move on

Our crib, vacant and ready to move on

This past weekend I dis-assembled our crib. The crib that we picked out at the beautiful baby furniture store when we were expecting our daughter. The crib that we used for our son for almost two years after that. And now, our first-born is in school and our youngest is so definitely not a baby, with his parrot-like repetition of everything we say and his mouth-full-of-teeth grin. And so, the crib had been sitting vacant for over a month, like the baby clothes and infant-seats that went before it, no longer needed for it’s intended purpose. Without need of it, and with it taking up so much valuable-real estate in our home, you would think that I, a purge-happy minimalist, would have been thrilled to part with it.

The thing is, I wasn’t.

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10Feb/15
5 Ways to Raise Good Kids

5 Ways to Raise Good Kids

5 Ways to Raise Good Kids

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I don’t know a parent out there who doesn’t want good kids. The problem is, we all have different ideas of what “good” looks like. For some it means kids who behave well in public, while for others it means kids who will be successful in school, or will grow up to have a lucrative career. For us, it means kids who love God and love others; who know who they are and aren’t afraid to live it and who desire to have a positive impact in the world. Sounds pretty lofty, doesn’t it? Perhaps, but we believe it is achievable, especially with consistent practice of these five concepts.

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23Jan/15
The Day I Lied

The Day I Lied

The Day I Lied

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This is the story of the time I lied to our four year old. No, not about the existence of Santa Claus or the Easter Bunny. I didn’t lie to her about how eating green vegetables will give her magic hair like Rapunzel or that if she isn’t asleep in five minutes the fairies won’t be able to come and sprinkle her with fairy dust (that is what I call regular dust in my house; our home is incredibly magical). I lied to her about dog clothes.

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21Jan/15
Ban The Than

Ban The Than

Ban The Than

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How long have I been a minimalist? Longer than some of you but definitely shorter than Joshua Becker! Does this kind of answer satisfy you? Probably not. And yet, we use it all the time.

How’s the weather? It’s colder than yesterday. Do you like the soup? It’s better than the last batch. Wasn’t that a great movie? I guess, but I didn’t like it as much as the first two in the series.

Why then, with these kind of answers failing to satisfy us, do we insist on comparing?

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14Jan/15
It’s Not You, It’s Me

It’s Not You, It’s Me

It’s Not You, It’s Me

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“If you want to make the world a better place, take a look at yourself and then make a change.” – Michael Jackson

“It’s not you, it’s me.” It’s a cliche line used when breaking up with someone to take the onus for the end of the relationship. It’s also something I’m trying to live by every day.

“It’s not you”, the man who cuts me off in traffic–

“It’s me”, the one who has to let go of anger that surfaces.

“It’s not you”, friend or family member who didn’t react to news the way I wanted you to–

“it’s me”, taking ownership of my life choices regardless of how anyone else responds to them.

“It’s not you”, child who challenges my authority or brings me to my knees in exhaustion–

“it’s me”, a parent who is learning what it means to love unconditionally.

There is a proverb that says “as water reflects a face, so a man’s heart reflects the man.” What kind of reflection do you see today?

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01Dec/14
Mother...!

Mother…!

Mother...!

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People don’t always use the word mother in a pleasant fashion. Here’s what everyone should say: Mothers are fantastic! This is the conclusion I drew after sitting a long time in the waiting room of my doctor’s office. Of course, I knew this universal truth before going to my appointment but as many other truths this one tends to be forgotten. And for some reason – probably pertaining to our human nature – mothers are the most forgetful of this, closely followed by their husbands.

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14Nov/14

Maintain Proper Form

Maintain Proper Form

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As someone who enjoys fitness and working out, few things make me cringe as much as someone doing an exercise with poor form. Whether it is a misaligned spine or crooked knees, my instinct is to want to correct them so that they will avoid injury and also find more success in their training.

All instructors understand the importance of teaching the proper way to do things, and the impact of correcting mistakes early on. As a mom I want to have the same approach when it comes to instructing and raising my children. If I want them to learn how respond to stress with patience and a calm reaction, how does flying off the handle contradict the message I’m hoping to teach?

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